Yesterday, I meant it - I hated Brett Favre and all men. In Favre's case, he had it all - a wife, children, a final year at a sport in which he excelled, millions of dollars. He'd overcome drug and alcohol addiction to get this far, and then he blows it via sexting a fake-boobed bimbo. Was the pressure of his wife recovering from breast cancer too much stress, driving him crazy? What a strange reaction, and hardly relational.
The whole incident has brought up bad memories of how seemingly good men treated me horribly - often as a reaction to presume. Like it's so much to think about committing to a great relationship. It's so, so stressful - it's horrible, you'd like have a partner, and someone who cared for you to spend your life with, how tragic!!!
Okay, getting to reality.
I would say the problem with Favre and many men is that they don't realize that deepening your relationships with those that actually love you is the key to like ( and better sex - something bimbo-esque chics don't get either). Why do men do such silly things like sabotaging or ending good relationships? Probably something that happened to them when they were little, or an absent or cold-hearted dad. But, this is a blog about the reality of religion, so I'd say the problem is about a lack of true spirituality - not a biblical quoting, hollow kind, but one that A.A. and most world spiritual traditions to recognize.
So, Brett Favre, you need to hear this:
From the Hindu tradition - The problem is you fail to realize that you are part of God, as are others. This will change your behavior.
From Buddhism - Right relationship requires right mindedness, and takes meditation and mindful practice.
From Islam - We are all equal in the eyes of God; who and what is your God? remember you are always in the presence of the true God who is all merciful and all compassionate.
From Christianity - What is causing you to stray from right relationship? Pray, forgive yourself, and serve others for a sense of peace.
And, of course from Judaism - you are made in the image of God, but you are still human and God is God. Love God, and your neighbor, as well as yourself.
In addition Martin Buber teaches us that we must therefore treat all people as a thou - a person, never an object.
Women are never objects guys. They are somebodies daughter, and before your run away or treat us with heartless actions, run to a bimbo, or start another relationship to get out of a serious one, remember you have a mother, or maybe even a daughter. Would you want a man to treat your mother or daughter that way?[ And, think of what the news is like for your daughters Brett Favre. And yes, even Jenn the Bimbo is somebodies daughter.]
Meditation, prayer, saying blessings, and creating meaningful rituals are things women do to cope with the world. I'm sure there is or could be guy equivalents. I think men need opportunities to do guy versions of these activities, but our society seems to tell them these activities are too "feminine" .
What do you think? What rituals should there be for men that help them cope and relate? I'll look forward to your responses.